Moving Between Your Divine Feminine and Your Divine Masculine Energies

Lucas and I are back with another episode! The cool thing about this episode is that Lucas and I didn’t practice and it’s pretty much coming to you live and raw. A lot of people spend some time moving in between things and in this episode we’re going to talk about how that is seen through the lens of masculine and feminine energies.

I’m co-hosting some episodes with Lucas as a preface to our launching of the Goddess Provenance! We’re hosting a 5-day Goddess Initiation that’s taking place on April 26th to April 30th. We're so excited for you to unlock your potential to see what’s possible when you tap into your intuition, learn how to work with the feminine and masculine energies, and embody healthy feminine empowerment.

Moving From a Productivity State to a Self-Care State

As I mentioned, a lot of people spend some time thinking about moving between things. For example, you move between home and work, you move between your bed and shower, and if you’re working from home you’re moving between your office to your kitchen during lunch time. We do our movement differently in each way but one thing is similar in all the things mentioned and that is that we’re moving physically. There’s also an energetic component when you’re moving from your office to your kitchen. You’re energetically releasing your “work” self and energetically entering into your “take care of yourself” self because when you’re eating lunch you’re taking care of yourself. How many people think about doing this well, doing it with intent, doing it in a way that makes you wholly in control of the movement of the energy? I’m someone who doesn’t do this consistently but I find that I do this when I move between client-coaching calls; I intentionally set the energy, take a couple of minutes to ground, burn some sage, cleanse my energy going into the container and I do the same coming out of it because my calls tend to more heavy and carry a lot of emotions. So it’s important for me to close that container and cut the energetic cord so it’s not following me into the next thing I do or the next client I see.

This is what Lucas does with his clients. He teaches them how to shift their minds from a productivity state to a self-care state and vice versa. Theoretically, there is a masculine and feminine component to both of these states. When we’re in a productivity state we’re a little more towards the masculine but if you’re not well balanced aka not funneling through your feminine, chances are you’re probably not going to be successfully productive. You might miss things or over pound on the wrong things. How many times have you written an email and by the end of it you notice that you used an exclamation point at the end of every sentence? That sounds like an unbalanced email which is a product of your unbalanced energy and unbalanced mind. Yes, we think of productivity as being masculine but you still have to be balanced. We think of self-care as being feminine but you still have to be balanced.

What Moving From Masculine Energy to Feminine Energy (& vice versa) Looks Like

We carry around baggage all the time. We have to do things to unburden ourselves in the moment and it’s not quite the same as removing your baggage and leaving it alone, that takes a lot of work. This is work that everyone has to do all the time and as you go through life you acquire baggage and you have to do what you need to do to remove it. At the moment right now, if you have 20 minutes that you need to be doing something (& you need to be balanced), you don’t have two days of preparation between now and 20 minutes of work. In order to be able to unburden yourself entirely, you need to be able to shrug off your baggage so that you’re free to move into a healthy, balanced state for the next 20 minutes. What does this look like? First, mindfulness. Your psyche, the way that you approach and interact with the world requires that you know what you’re about to do. Be clear where you are that you have baggage to shrug off and be clear that you’re going to be doing something for the next 20 minutes and you need to be balanced while doing that. That can look like something that is self-care, something that’s productive, or perhaps a love-making session with your partner (hopefully it’s longer than 20 minutes ha!). So be mindful of your current circumstances and be mindful about what you’re going to be entering into -- what is the purpose of this period you’re entering into? From mindfulness, open yourself up to what needs to be done to be clear and present. Your goal is to drive through the moment being clear and present in that purpose. What’s the baggage you need to shrug off? How do you need to be free in order to drive through your purpose? In many cases, that requires you to be detailed. We think of this as masculine energy. We need to be detailed because our baggage requires attention and acknowledgement. We can’t just shrug off baggage without attention and acknowledgement; and that’s the feminine version of that moment. The masculine is creating the details and list of that baggage and the feminine is the acknowledgement of that.

One of the things I tell my clients often is the energy in which you do something is more important than the thing you’re doing itself. This is a beautiful example of that because you can just do all the things (i.e. writing a social media caption, write an email, or just doing something in your business) but if you didn’t take the time to be mindful, to acknowledge whatever is going on in your life then what is the energy you’re operating out of? This ties back into Be, Do, Have. Focus on the energy in which you BE so that what you DO can HAVE the most impact and also have the intention you put forward. You might be putting out content with the intention of connecting to your clients/audience/community, but if you’re doing that energy from a wounded place then you may notice that piece of content might have little to no engagement. You start to wonder why this happened which only reinforces the negative patterns you created the content from aka the baggage that never got acknowledged. Put your ego to the side, acknowledge your inner child from your divine feminine by understanding what they may need and being able to provide those needs to your inner child, and then tapping into the divine masculine to get shit done.

Let’s expand on some examples as to how this would play out. How many times have you done a workout and gotten to the end of the workout and realized that it had the wrong impact? Lucas explains how he can go running but if he doesn’t take the time to clear his mind and move into the purpose of the moment and really walk through the value of running and what he is doing while he is doing it, he might find that the first half of the run was just wasted time. He feels like his legs are just moving while he is waiting for his being to come around. At best, it can feel like a waste of time and at worst he could have injured himself from not being present/paying attention. Personally, there have been many times where I forced myself to do a workout without first checking in with Self and asking “What is it that I actually need?” - through this I can still do the workout and perhaps adjust it more to what my body needs. Another example can look like time with friends and family. I intentionally turn off work when I sit down and have dinner with Henrik and am intentionally with what is there. Lucas experiences the same with his wife where she is able to tell him when he’s not being present. He appreciates that from her as it snaps him back into realizing that he needs to take 1-2 minutes to be present because he owes it to himself and his wife.

Work is a common example I think most people can resonate with. When Lucas is not balanced with work, he is able to get things done but he finds that the work that he did needs to be done again. When I’m not balanced with work, things don’t get done and I’m too scattered to even do anything. So when there is no balance, Lucas swings more into the masculine while I swing more into the feminine. Knowing this, where do you fall on the spectrum?

Let’s circle back to the process: First, be mindful. Second, go through the steps of acknowledging the baggage that we’re carrying. Be detailed in this acknowledgement and here are a couple of tips to help with this - Don’t meditate for this. This is not the time to meditate because doing so actually puts you more into an unbalanced state. Instead, go for a walk, do a yoga session, or even light stretching. Energy and emotions sit in your body and if we move in ways that are easy, relatively unchallenging, and give and work through freedom it helps you focus getting deeper into your body. After moving through your body, journal about it. The issues that you’re aware of are actually going to stick with you for a while. When you unburden yourself for the moment, they don’t go away. It’s like setting it on your office desk, it will continue to be there until you address it but you are able to put it down. That’s why it’s important to journal so you don’t have to rediscover that burden every time you work to be productive. There are also different types of productivity and can be seen as either low value or high value. An example of this would be choosing to take time off but not actually relaxing your mind is low value productivity. Escapism is the lowest value of productivity. Watching TV and watching movies isn’t necessarily bad but become aware of what’s happening during that activity. Once you’ve journaled and have the list and you’ve decided that you want to be productive, you take out the list and acknowledge your burden and create the energy that you’re setting it down for the moment.

Now, it’s important to understand how to go into a state of release in order to set down the burdens; but how do we release a state that isn’t burdened? Lucas posed an example of me going out to play with my dogs and being in productive playful energy and then coming inside encountering Henrik where I still have productive playful energy but he does not. What I did to release my playful energy is I take a couple of breaths and move the energy through me physically. When you activate your lungs, it activates your entire torso. Other ways to move out of playful energy are through moving your body, doing a simple tabata, doing qi gong, jumping up and down on a trampoline, and dancing!

So it’s no secret that it seems like a lot of steps to follow in order to be productive for a certain timeframe. It may seem like a lot to people who don’t do this very often but it wouldn’t feel like it if you were consistent. Lucas has done this practice so much that he knows the burdens that he needs to release and no longer needs to refer to a written list, thus allowing him only a moment to acknowledge them bringing him to a state of productivity much quicker.

Burdens That You May be Carrying

Lucas touches on burdens people may be carrying that may be unaware that they are actually burdens. We talk a lot about core wounds and it’s important to know what yours are. We experience constant trauma all the time. For example, no one likes to lose anything. How often do you misplace your keys? If you’re like Lucas, you misplace your keys at least 4 times a day. He doesn’t carry a long-term burden of misplacing his keys but it is a trauma and it’s a trauma that you have to work through in that moment in order to be released from it every time it happens. We interact with a world that is reactive and we have to identify the things that cause that reaction that creates traumas. Losing something important is a trauma and your keys are important. Lucas is able to release himself from that trauma the moment he finds his keys. Think of a stress fracture, something so tiny can turn into something so big. A common micro-trauma people experience is when you talk about something you’re passionate about and the person you’re telling doesn’t seem very interested. It’s a necessary practice for you to be able to give grace to people who don’t understand your passion or the things that excite you. Accept that it’s not about you coming from them, they just don’t understand and that’s okay. Have awareness for what your core wounds are. They aren’t going to go away but understand that just because it shows up again, it doesn’t make you broken. When I launched my mastermind, my core wounds were loud during that time and I struggled with moving through both my feminine and masculine energies. But I took the time to really lean in and acknowledge these burdens by taking a break from social media and really being intentional with my walks. I implore you to reflect, why do you feel such huge imposter syndrome for this thing you’re doing? I reflected on this and discovered what my wounds were. Once I became aware of the burdens, I was able to release them. Create content to connect. Everything you do has energy attached to it.

How to Move Into Masculine and Feminine Energies

Last week, we talked about the different avatars of the triple goddess. Now that we’ve talked about shaking off your burdens for a couple minutes, you are now an empty void prepared to receive. If you grab your phone right after, you’re allowing other people to control your energy. The language of your intention is very important. You have to find the word that’s most powerful that describes important because your brain knows when you tell it something important, find the word that actually speaks to that. Find the language that finds you being productive.