How To Transform Your Mind
This week we’re talking about all things mindset! If you’ve been hanging out with me for awhile, a lot of the things I mention should sound familiar considering that this is right in my wheelhouse! If you’re new here, you’re in for a treat and I have some golden nuggets that you’re going to want to start implementing as soon as possible; grab your journal and a pen and get ready to dive in!
What Mindset Is
There’s been a rise in popularity when it comes to the topic of mindset for the past few years now and it seems as though it’s incorporated into many coaching containers! To put it simply, your mindset is how you see something; your perspective of it. Something that I’ve always made it a point to say is that your circumstances don’t create your experiences. Your thoughts around your circumstances are what create your experiences. Meaning that any experience you’re having in life (whether it be positive or negative) is a direct result of the thought you’re having. Your thoughts come from your mindset; how you perceive a situation. For example, if you are someone who routinely sees things as worse case scenarios or you think someone doesn’t like you/they’re talking bad about you, you have a negative mindset. Someone with a positive mindset routinely sees their obstacles as opportunities, they speak kindly to themselves, and they see their glasses half full rather than half empty. With that being established, it’s important to note that mindset is a spectrum. Meaning that we’re not always going to have a positive mindset and that’s okay! With that being said…
I specialize in coaching my clients to have a growth mindset that is focused on loving, resiliency, and healing for themselves. Our mindset is what shapes our life!
A Fixed Mindset vs. A Growth Mindset
To dive deeper into mindset work, it’s important to evaluate how you speak to yourself. Someone who has a fixed mindset is someone who views the world as very limiting. Here are some characteristics of someone with a fixed mindset:
They avoid challenges
They give up very easily
They are threatened by other people’s success
They desire to look smart
They believe their skills and achievements are fixed. (i.e “If I wasn’t born with it, then there’s no way I can obtain it.”)
Someone who has a growth mindset sees things in the perspective of freedom, abundance, and opportunities. Here are some characteristics of someone with a growth mindset:
They persevere in the face of adversity
They acknowledge that effort is required to build new skills
They find inspiration in other people’s success
They embrace challenges and accept criticism
They have a deep desire to learn and build new abilities--and they’re able to!
Do you find yourself in the fixed mindset or growth mindset? If you’re reading this, you’re most likely someone who has a growth mindset!
5 Tips For How To Transform Your Mind & Why It’s Important
Tip 1: Honestly evaluate how you speak to yourself
Do you speak to yourself with a fixed mindset or a growth mindset? To go a layer deeper, are you speaking to yourself from your inner critic or your highest self? Speaking from personal experience, I am someone who used to speak so negatively to myself. Self love wasn’t modeled for me growing up so I spent a lot of time doing the work with how I wanted to speak to myself moving forward. I worked on implementing a growth mindset with myself. A couple of ways you can work on changing how you speak to yourself is through journaling. Journaling allows you to get a better look at your brain and allows you to reflect on what’s really going on in there. Meditation is also a really great way for you to figure out and change how you speak to yourself because you are left with nothing but your thoughts. Side note: If you’re someone who regularly speaks negatively to yourself, you probably hate meditating! Meditating requires you to sit with yourself and analyze and acknowledge what’s coming through rather than falling victim to it.
Tip 2: Language Reframes
“Needing to” creates so much pressure on yourself while “getting to” puts you in a victor mindset.
“I can’t” is very limiting while “How can I?” moves you to a solutions oriented mindset.
If you say “I know,” it’s most likely something that you do know but you’re not taking the action around it. Knowledge isn’t power, APPLIED knowledge is power--so how can you embody this knowledge?
Hope is an excuse to not reach your potential.
Saying “I am” shows how certain you are of achieving what you set out to do while also knowing that if you’re unable to, that it’s okay.
By shifting and reframing your language and the way you speak to yourself you’re really going to change and up-level your mindset!
Tip 3: Having Habits That Serve Your Highest Self
What habits do you have that serve your highest self? Here are couple you can adopt that my clients and I do:
Journaling
Meditating
Reading
Self-development
Connecting & celebrating with others
Habits shape your life. If you don’t regularly invest in yourself through habits, you will most likely see a decline in your life. When you build habits that serve your highest self, you are going to transform your life for good.
Tip 4: Be With People Who Match Your Desired Mindset
Are you hanging out with people who are pushing you out of your comfort zone? Take an honest look at your circle. If you want to become better, you have to be willing to let people go. Are you shrinking yourself to fit in places you have outgrown? If yes, you have a choice you GET to make. Surround yourself with like-minded people that inspire you to want to grow and elevate your life.
Tip 5: Step Outside Of Your Comfort Zone and Into Your Purpose
Taking small actions outside of your comfort zone trains your mind to not be a victim of fear. Learn to feel comfortable being uncomfortable. We can mold our minds to change. You are a victor that can choose what you want.
